The Garden of You
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We have all read self-help books. Some made a difference and some didn't.
We have taken quizzes in magazines to find out who we are - they were fun, but generally they didn't help.
We might even have gone for therapy. But finding out that, say, we have never forgiven our brother for what he did to us when were five didn't make us like ourselves better - so that wasn't much help.
Like a ball in a pinball machine as we have all tried one thing after another, but how much did we really change?
Taking Notes
If you have been doing the Comfort Vacations you have probably noticed that they were mostly about just taking note of how you feel, not changing anything.
Anytime you want to change something, probably the most important thing to do is really think about it. Maybe in the long run - change is not what is really necessary.
What's Good? - What's Bad?
If you are not an aggressive person, is that really so bad? Bet you have more friends that the go-getters.
Is lack of ambition bad? In a world of Leaders aren't the Followers important too?
Is lack of desire to be "creative" so terrible? My Mother always said that her greatest talent was to be an audience. She was a great listener - a very rare and precious talent indeed!
Is there such a thing as being "overly ambitions"? Well, the price tag may be high (only you can decide if it's worth it) but it is fun!
To Change Yourself
Before change can really happen you must first know yourself. You must know what can be changed, what can't, and why. The answers are often surprising - if you go deep enough. But going deep enough is not easy. It might be painful, and it is certainly scary.
The Comfort Vacation is about developing a place where you can safely just be you - nothing to hide, nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to fear.
Building the Garden
When a landscaper comes to design a beautiful garden, the first step is to understand the place and everything in it. Is there a beautiful old oak, or a stream that runs through the land?
Plan a Garden of Yourself
What is the Best and most Beautiful thing about You?